“It’s not that some people have willpower and some don’t.
It’s that some people are ready to change and others are not.”
In this life, there’s one thing we all have in common. Change.
No matter who we are where we come from or how much we run from it change is bound to happen in all our lives.
Because of this certainty, acquiring the knowledge of how to prepare for change. Will give you the strength to make it through life’s many changes and facets of life.
Mastering the art of change will get you through the seasons of life efficiently…
Change is an equalizer. Because it is every human’s experience.
Whenever you are going through changes. It is becoming to think that you are the only one experiencing them.
But that is not true change makes every human equal because we are all survivors of change.
Some change is welcome – some change is not. Every day, week, month or year or two.
Life has a habit of throwing something at us that we didn’t expect. It could be a job promotion or loss, separation or graduation. Losing a loved one or welcoming a new one.
Change comes in many ways in our life almost instantly, dictating our future step by step of the way.
Change is sometimes uncomfortable whether it be starting a new business or moving to a new city.
There’s always an adjustment period for any new habits. Despite our reluctant fear of change. We spend our whole lives overcoming it and finding new ways to adapt and deal with change.
Everyone faces challenges in life. But some can be exceptionally difficult to handle.
Like the news of a lengthy course of medical treatment, for example. Or a transition to a demanding work situation.
The good news is you don’t have to face an upcoming challenge with fear. By preparing yourself. You can reduce the worry associated with an impending difficulty. And be better equipped to manage it.
In some cases, the fear is still there but you will have the courage and strength to carry on. Scared and all!
While most of us would like to think of ourselves as flexibly adaptable beings. The reality is that the mere thought of even a necessary change makes the best of us want to run and hide.
Most people are creatures of habit. Slight changes to our regular routines can turn us into stressed out, crabby people. But “The key to change…is to let go of fear.”
Facing a life challenge can be scary, but being prepared for the difficulty will make it a lot better to handle.
Preparing For Change
You must prepare for change, but lots of things in life are difficult to prepare for.
For example, right now my spouse of 15 years is currently battling for his right to live. Without cancer robbing him of his time.
Change is a funny thing. Sometimes we want it so badly and we’d do anything for it. Sometimes we’re so scared of it that we’d give anything to stop it from happening.
Change has played a big part in my life over this past year.
I’m going to be transparent with you here. And tell you that I am overwhelmingly concerned. About this big change that’s happening in my families life.
We can barely handle the financial difficulties we’ve had to endure. And now there is cancer coming to threaten the future of my marriage and family life.
But it’s one of those changes in life that you can’t really prepare for. You can do a few things to help you manage and get through it. Aside from that, you just have to sit back and let things unfold.
Other big life changes are also difficult to prepare for.
Such as an impending marriage, divorce, or major lifestyle change.
I mean, there is so much information on the best ways to prepare for change.
Although there are many skeptics who deny the legitimacy of the Bible. One cannot deny the timeless wisdom bestowed within its pages.
Understanding the principle truths about change. Will help you to embrace it and its uncertainty.
So the best way to get ready for change is to prepare spiritually. Mentally, physically and emotionally.
Here are 15 tips to help you get ready for a tough time ahead so you can manage it with strength and tenacity.
How To Prepare For Change
1. Remember The Two Things that Never Changes.
There are two things that never change God and His promises.
Everything else changes.
Thus nothing is permanent except God and His promises. The key to note is that God also promises that nothing is permanent and that there will be seasons (Gen. 8:22 MSG).
We have to plan and order our lives according to the spirit of God within us. We must prepare with God for whatever seasons may bring into our lives.
2. Get Your Mind Right
Making the decision to change how you view what you are going through. Is the first requirement for getting your mind right.
Now, I will reference insights from the bible. Because the teachings, wisdom, character, and insights are still relevant to our present day. It is a timeless book about A King & His Kingdom.
I understand that many choose not to believe in Jesus the Christ, the Son of God, as their personal savior. And that is your right as an individual human being.
However, even if you don’t believe in Jesus you can learn a lot about His time here on Earth.
When Jesus came on the scene. He began his ministry by declaring “repent for the Kingdom of God is at hand”(Matthew 3:2 MSG).
The repentance (metanoia) called for throughout the Bible. Is a summons to a personal. Absolute and ultimate unconditional surrender to God as Sovereign.
To repent is to change the way you think. You can still live life with joy and optimism regardless of the change you experience. Change your thoughts and attitudes. So that you can get rid of the life stinks mentality.
The mindset that will lead you into a rut of negative thoughts and emotions. And replace it with a new perspective. A positive thought-provoking, good vibes Hallelujah anyhow type of attitude. A Yet will I trust him kind of pushing on.
The aphorism as a man thinketh in his heart so is he. Not only embraces the whole of a human being. But is so comprehensive about reaching out. To every condition and circumstance of that person’s life.
A person is literally what they think about themselves. Being the complete sum of all their thoughts.
Being that we are made in the image of God the Creator of all living things. And given dominion on Earth by the Supreme Ruler of the Universe.
As a being of power intelligence and love. And the architect of our own thoughts. We hold the key within us to every situation. And contain within ourselves. That transforming and regenerative agency.
Empowered with resilience. By which we may make ourselves what we Will. We are always the master even at our weakest. And most abandoned state.
When we begin to reflect upon our condition. And to search for the law upon which our being is established.
Then becoming the wise master. Directing our energy, fashioning our thoughts and fruitful issues. We can become.
By discovering within the laws of thought. The discovery is a matter of application, self-analysis, and experience.
So make the decision to change the way you think! You can do it.
3. Understand The Effect of Thought on Circumstances
A person’s mind is liking to a garden which may be intelligently cultivated or allowed to run wild. Whether cultivated or neglected it must and will bring forth.
If no useful seeds are put into it. Then an abundance of useless weed seeds will fall therein. And will continue to produce their kind.
A gardener cultivates his plot keeping it from weeds. Growing flowers and fruits which he requires. So it is so in the garden of our minds.
Weeding out all the wrong useless and impure thoughts. And cultivating toward perfection. The flowers and fruits of right useful and pure thoughts.
By pursuing this process we will sooner or later discover that we are master gardeners of our soul. The director of our lives. Increasing accuracy of thought. It is the elements shaping our character, circumstances, and destiny.
Read my post How To Change Your Thoughts to Change Your Life for more inspiration!
4. Pray About Everything
You can pray about everything and worry about nothing! When you worry it says you think you can solve your own problems better than God can. But you are not built to handle problems in your own strength.
Don’t get it twisted we are given only so much dominion as human beings. We were created to depend on God. Not just each other and our abilities.
Although you have been given liberty and ability to have authority over yourself and the way you think. You are fundamentally created by God to be depended upon His guidance.
So bring your challenges in life to God. The All-Knowing El Shaddai and ask the Holy Spirit to help you with them all.
All relationships thrive off of communication. The same is true of God the creator of you and me. Ask and you shall receive.
5. Embrace Change
Instead of facing change with fear and dread, remind yourself that a stagnant life is a boring one. Trying to resist and work against any impending change is as tiring as swimming against the tide.
Allow yourself to ‘go with the flow’ and view change in a positive light.
It’s logical that the more change and transition you go through. The more opportunity you have to perceive the patterns of your life.
How you handle change. Whether you can negotiate and navigate the necessary transitions.
Both those you start and those that come about on their own. Is where your focus should reside.
Embrace it! Open up to it! Your life is changing anyway. You might as well change with it.
6. Take The Time To Understand The Truth About Change
God brings in seasons and he takes seasons out. A wise ruler an ancient Babylon skilled in interpreting seasons wrote.
“Praise is to the name of God forever and ever; wisdom and power are His. He changes times and seasons.” (Daniel 2:20-21).
According to scripture, the responsibility of changing seasons is placed on God.
Unfortunately looking at events from a human perspective. We love to blame people for our problems. Even in an economic crisis.
We cannot only blame Wall Street for the economic problems. Many things may have happened that were beyond anyone’s control.
The entire system was rigged and flawed when implemented from the beginning. Financial and political leaders are not entirely sure what happened.
Everything just went out of order. But they are also very aware of how somethings ended up the way they have.
History shows that every institution that we depend on can be shaken. The only thing that is not shaking is the kingdom of God.
Perhaps this might be the purpose of the shaking in our lives. We depend on the government and economic systems even our own abilities for everything.
God may have allowed (like He did Job) the economic turmoil. So that we can stop looking at each other and start looking up to Him.
Regardless of why change happens. The greatest protection against change is to expect it.
Is this scriptural? Yes, it is. Jesus told his disciples that he would be killed and buried (Matt. 16:21).
He told them these things so that when it happened they would not be offended. He was preparing them for change.
7. Take Advantage of the Time To Get Prepared
In this season of economic turmoil. We are depressed because we never expected economic changes. In the capacity that it is in today.
The lack of preparation is why so many people are and stay depressed.
If you’ve failed in the past, it is easy to lose confidence. Yet people who succeed in making changes have often tried many times before.
If you can’t yet see a way forward, then rather than giving up. Give yourself a preparation stage to cultivate your skills. Strengths and abilities that might help you make progress.
Like an athlete in training. You can improve your self or situation by identifying where you’ve gone wrong. Or what you have done wrong in the past. Improving your technique and finding out about new approaches.
Get started on prioritizing your task. When you’re under stress, daily duties can go by the wayside. But everyday tasks still need your attention.
Some things can be done in advance. Use the time before the difficulty kicks in.
The Positive Psychology columnist Chris Johnstone. Explains “the key to successfully dealing with change is preparation. ”
8. Understand The Logical Levels of Change
According to Lifehack, it’s important to understand how change actually works so you know what to expect during the process.
In Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP). These five logical levels are used to understand what’s involved in making a personal change. This is a simple model that gives five useful windows through which to view any issue.
Here’s a quick breakdown of the five Logical Levels:
- Identity – Who are you? What roles do you play in your life?
- Beliefs – Why do you do what you do? What are your values and beliefs?
- Capabilities – How do you do things? What are your skills and strategies?
- Behaviors – What are you doing? What are your current behaviors?
- Environment – Where, when and with whom are you displaying your behaviors?
Being able to assess, to understand, to know, where you are in life, at any given point, is a very valuable tool.
9. Keep Calm and Keep The Faith
Think about what you would do if God does not deliver you from the fire of difficulty?
Some of the faith messages that have been preached to us have been the source of some of our depression.
The type of faith that we should have is the faith of the three Hebrew Boys in scripture. When they addressed King Nebuchadnezzar.
The king threatened to throw them in the fiery furnace. They stated, “Your threat means nothing to us. If you throw us in the fire. The God we serve can rescue us from your roaring furnace and anything else you might cook up, O king. But even if he doesn’t, it wouldn’t make a bit of difference, O king. We still wouldn’t serve your gods or worship the gold statue you set up.”(Daniel 3:17-18 MSG)
That is the kind of faith that we need. Most preachers have not taught us this principle. What if you do not keep your perfect health. Will you still trust God?
9. A Change Is A Crisis.
All change is a crisis. Even a good change, like getting married can be considered a crisis.
You may wake up the morning after the ceremony and wonder what did I do?
The marriage seemed like a wonderful experience on the wedding day. Is now a crisis because for the first time you are sleeping with someone. You committed to staying with for the rest of your life.
Standing on a scale frightens some people. To go from weighing less than 200 lb to weight well over that mark. Is the kind of change that can impose a crisis. The crisis is a result of the change.
They are interrelated. Whenever there is a crisis. Something changed. And whenever something changes there is a crisis.
Some crisis is self-imposed. If you eat and eat and then wonder why your clothes cannot fit. That is a self-imposed crisis.
If you sleep with someone that you are not married to and create a baby or contract a disease. That is a crisis but it is self-imposed.
All external crisis is a result of change over which you have no control. Mastering the change of crisis is determined by your ability to manage. As well as benefit from the change. That is the key.
If you can master change or use it for your benefit you will survive.
During an economic crisis. Some of the most powerful billionaires. And millionaires in the world will be produced.
Unfortunately this crisis. May also produce some of the poorest people that you have ever seen.
You can decide which one you will be by your capacity to manage the changes in your environment. We all should take a reality check.
10. Accept The Reality That Change is Permanent.
There’s nothing as permanent as change. In essence, change is constant. It does not start and it never stops. It just keeps moving. Everything changes.
Understanding this has been one of the most encouraging things in my life.
Change is inevitable. I am learning to settle this in my own life. My life seems easier to live.
Allow me to put it another way change is a principle of life. If something is alive it will experience change.
Everything that you go through is a manifestation of some type of change and it is part of life.
A wise King said, “there is a time for everything and a season for every activity under heaven.” (Ecc 3:1 MSG)
This should relieve some of your pressure. Remember there’s nothing that will come your way. That you cannot handle because seasons are temporary.
Whatever you are going through will change. So you can face the future with confidence and a smile because God guarantees changes.
11. Let Your Loved Ones Know How The Change Might Affect You and Them.
We often forget changes not only affect us but those around us.
Whenever possible, give your loved ones a heads up. On how the change might affect you and your relationship with them.
Some changes need more of your time. Meaning you have less time for socialization and unnecessary drama.
Giving them a heads up helps them to understand why you might be more stressed during the change period. Your loved ones may surprise you by helping you through the transition.
Becoming personally accountable for yourself. And your actions. Frees you from outside influences. Boosts confidence in your ability to make healthy choices and decisions. And nurtures trust in your own process.
This is also a key way to express your individuality, to present a unique and fresh perspective of.
12. Prepare Your Finances.
Nothing can make a difficult situation more difficult than money problems. If your finances are out of whack, make a point to get them in order as soon as possible.
Prepare a budget if you don’t already have one, and clear up all unpaid bills. You may even want to pay bills in advance so you won’t have to worry about it or risk forgetting to pay.
And set your life up to accommodate any changes that may occur along the way. Your families future depends on what you do today.
In the event, anything happens to you be prepared by preparing your finances.
13. Have In Place a Go-to Person.
Address and acknowledge your feelings. Don’t try to push aside or ignore your feelings. If you are feeling scared, ask yourself what exactly is frightening about the change?
Are you afraid of being overwhelmed? Being alone? Not having enough personal freedom, or failing?
Is there someone–or several people–you trust to be your confidant and support base? Ask them to be “on-call” should you need a shoulder to lean on or general help.
Family members, friends, coworkers, or even spiritual counsel or coach. Can fill the role. Make sure the person is available and willing to help you during the time you’ll need them.
Learning as much as you can about the situation you’re facing before you get immersed in it. Will help you avoid complications.
Read, write in a journal, or talk to others who have been through a similar ordeal. Seek counseling or other professional guidance to manage your mental health.
While going through the change. A little foreknowledge will give you important tips. And coping skills to better handle your challenge.
14. Practice Self-Care.
Get in the habit of taking care of yourself now. So that you won’t risk having unexpected health problems in the weeks ahead.
Get rest, exercise, and eat right. You may even want to learn meditation to help reduce stress down the road.
Staying well and practicing good health habits now. Will help carry you through the tough times.
Make Sure to Take Time for Yourself.
The realization that things aren’t what you want them to be.
May be accompanied by any number of emotions. And their degree of severity. Fear, frustration, resentment, guilt, anxiety and/or depression, and even panic.
The realization. Or insight. May reveal that the choices or decisions you’ve made aren’t working—maybe never did, maybe never will.
Perhaps the direction your life has taken. Had more to do with the influential people around you. You may want and intend to do something different for yourself now.
15. Set Realistic Expectations For Yourself and Others
People are often too hard on themselves. And impose unspoken expectations on others. You expect that things can continue on—business as usual.
Regardless of the major change that happened. Allow yourself some breathing room and keep your schedule flexible.
Understand if you haven’t spoken directly to another person about what you expect from them. Don’t expect them to just know. If it is unspoken. It is unknown.
It is not right to have unspoken expectations and then be angry or hurt by someone’s actions. When that other person had no idea you were expecting whatever “it” is, from them in the first place.
Speak your expectations to others out loud so they will know. Then you will know if they are able to meet your expectations or not.
Set realistic expectations for yourself. And don’t be too hard on yourself either.
Choose to do what you feel is best for you. Choose what’s more interesting to you. Or something you feel passionate about.
Focus on what you believe will be the most fulfilling and satisfying. Start a journal to keep track of your emotions and thoughts along the journey.
Be prepared for input from others, whether you want it or not, but stick to your guns once you begin.
Decide to take ownership and responsibility. For your life’s choices and their consequences.
And trust that there is a force greater than us all. Who is looking out for our best interest even though the changes?
If you follow the 15 tips above. You will amaze yourself at how strong and capable you are when times get tough. Focus on the light.
The best way to handle difficulty is with prayer, trust, optimism, communication, focus. And the knowledge that although change is permanent the seasons of change are temporary.
Remember, at the end of every tunnel, there is light. Keep your mind on that thought as you prepare and carry on your journey.
Let the light of infinite wisdom guide you and keep your spirits lifted. Before long, you’ll be over the obstacles of life.
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